Having huge relatives does not imply that you will get well with each and every member. Among them there are certain relatives who are really annoying so their visit at your place becomes a nightmare. However, annoying relatives are certainty in every one’s life. Dealing with such relatives means you need to first understand them, react or just agree with them. Well there are various methods to deal with such annoying relatives and here you are going to learn about dealing with these annoying relatives so that you are able to keep your mind and stress less.
1. Ignore
This is the first thing you can do with them. It would be better to ignore them and let them to notice your ignorance. It would be wise just to acknowledge them and just move away from there. By doing this you will show that you are not interested in any conversation and this is going to work for sure.
2. Annoy Them To The Extreme
You will never want to hurt your relatives. You can better play their cards upon them and annoy them to the fullest such as pose a question for everything they say, interrupt their speech whenever you can, add sugar in their tea, if they prefer having tea without sugar. Accidentally spill some ink on their clothes. Do whatever you can to annoy those relatives who have been annoying you all these years. But make sure, all of it is harmless.
3. You Have Grown Up
These words are for those unstoppable uncles and aunties who cannot believe that you have grown up. They are likely to continue to annoy you such as by pulling your cheek, kissing on your cheeks and all other ways that have been invented by mankind to irritate. The sentence would be the best line for them. You must make them aware by telling them that they have grown older. While saying these words you should not be harsh but make sure you show your sarcasm very well. Hope this will stop them or at least make them feel awkward.
4. Hide Your Things
If your relatives are greedy, who seem to have liking with everything in your house and take permission to take them to their home? You must hide all your things in a safe place before such set of relatives arrive at your place. You cannot tolerate giving them to anyone else as you have bought all those things in your house after a lot of shopping a hopping around. However, you cannot say no if they ask for it, because you have certain virtues. So in such cases you must hide your belongings.
5. Avoid being too much helpful
There are certain relatives who are always asking for help, either in monetary terms or some other way. It is good manner to help your extended relatives. However, if it becomes a habit or a daily matter then you do not have to go out of your way to help them every time. Every one of us have a fixed monthly budget to run our homes. In the time of necessity you can help your relatives from your savings but not every time. So you don’t have to be too helpful to such greedy and annoying relative’s every time. You must tell them in a polite manner that instead of asking for help from others they should learn to solve their own problems.
6. Stop being too welcoming
Guests are always welcome. But if guests are bringing pain and uneasiness then it is advisable not to be too warm and welcoming. They have earlier invaded your house without prior information and it is likely that they will keep doing that all their lives. So if you behave too nicely with them every time, you are only inviting danger for yourself. They will take you for granted keep on annoying you. So the next time they pay you a visit you should not have to be too warm such as ask them to get water for themselves on their own, do not let them reign over the television set in your drawing hall. Tell that you have a certain show to watch and you cannot miss that at any condition. You should not prepare special meals for them. You can even say that you are being advised to stay away from too much oily and spicy food, so they have to eat whatever you cook for yourself. You must keep in mind that you have to take care and protect yourself from such annoyance.
7. State Your Rejections Clearly
If the last three ways fail to work, then stop being nice. Okay, I am not asking you to be rude and howl at your relatives, but you can be a little strict and state your rejections clearly. Can’t you? Make it clear to your relatives that you do not like them talking about your love life or making any comment about it, or you do not want them to judge your academic records. They will realize that you have grown up from the little boy or girl they have always known you as and will somewhere start respecting your privacy.
8. Turn The Tables
If you find the entire conversation among you r elders is gradually taking a turn towards you because of that particular relative, then be quick enough to turn the table. You sneak in and start asking unnecessary questions to your relative about his or her work life or his younger days. You can also remind them of a particular incident that you have often heard them narrate to everybody. That will make him forget about the discussion they were having a few minutes back. Instead you all have to near the agony of listening to that incident or story again. But still, a lot better than every relative criticizing you, isn’t it?
9. Show As If You Are Actually Paying Heed
This too works but this will require you to talk. This point comes into play if your letting them talk fails to bear any fruit. You might keep quiet and let them talk, but there are weird relatives who just do not understand or even acknowledge your lack of interest. They will keep on talking talking and talking. So for such relatives, the best thing you can do is to show that you are actually taking their advice (!) seriously. At the back of your mind you know that you will do what you have decided, but if you tell them, they will again start a new discussion on how irresponsible today’s youth are an don and on. So better fake an interest and that will lead to end their long lectures fast.
10. Let Them Talk
Your hands are tied, you know that. Once that relative starts talking, silence dawns upon everyone else. But you know, that is the best thing to do, that is, to let him or her talk. They will probably bombard you with questions, or give you lectures, or keep on telling about how great he or she was in their younger days. Just listen. Do not interrupt. The more you interrupt or ask any question, it will instigate him to talk even more. Do you want that? So let him talk without uttering a single word. You may give accompanying expressions to his stories, if you want, but remember, NOT A WORD. They might understand your lack of interest in the conversation, which indeed was a monologue, because they will notice that you have not asked any questions, or shown any sympathy. SO letting your annoying relatives talk will serve your purpose.