Since love is not a fairy tale so you cannot stop and look for a perfect "10" who is likely to fulfil all the qualifications on your wish list. In some cases it is possible to get the perfect person for yourself. However, you would be able to find someone who is likely to stand by your side and stand bravely towards the messiness of the world so that you are able to experience life to its fullest potential.
However, do you know about the set which will help you to find true love in your life? Here are some secrets in order to get you started:
1. Try to be Genuine
In order to find real love, the first thing you need to do is to highlight your true self. If you want someone to love you through your moments of imperfection then you must be willing to do that for someone else. You should always try to be real with yourself so that you are ready for someone else's genuinely.
What makes you happy or what do you really want out of life? These are the easiest answer to get in a pattern of pleasing others and doing what seems popular or "normal" at the time. If you shift your personality, passions or purpose to satisfy another person then you are not being true to yourself. The fact is people are basically attracted towards genuine. You must get to know yourself, love yourself and learn to act and speak genuinely.
2. Be your best self
It has been found that opposites can attract so you must first understand that "like attracts like." You should set the quality for the individual you want to spend your life with. You should not look for a lethargic, gluttonous, stingy complainer with ketchup stains on their shirt.
If you want to spend your days with a healthy person who takes care of their body then you must also lace up those sneakers and get to the gym yourself. If you want yourself to be surrounded with a person who sees the best in people and situations then you should also stop complaining and look for best in people and situations. So it is important to do be best with yourself before you start complaining about that person.
3. Be confident
You need to have much confidence in yourself. In order to attract love in your life you should be confident while takings your decisions and your confidence are likely to come out of your confidence. If you are being genuine, best self then the confidence is likely to radiate from you in a glow of self-worth. In this way you will be able to attract someone who recognizes, appreciates and loves who you are.
You should promote this confidence by knowing that you are whole and complete just by being you. You should clearly understand that a soul mate is nice to have but not a must-have. If you are not able to find love for yourself then do not lose your confidence because you must keep in mind that you alone are enough.
4. Be open
If you want to meet with someone new then you should be willing to connect and open up with the people around you. If someone next to you in the coffee line strikes up a conversation and willing to engage with you then you should open up yourself a little bit though that person is not to be the love of your life. Anyway you should practice openness. If you develop the energy of openness then it will help you to remove your repetitions process while speaking and it may help you to have a long lasting relationships.
5. Be happy
Perhaps the most important secret of this list is to be happy. Everyone wants to be around happy people as happiness is magnetic. So you need to focus your energy on thinking about and doing the things that will make you happy.
6. Do not hurry; allow the relationship to unfold
When you meet someone with whom you have a good connection with then you must allow the connection to develop and grow. If the person is a true soul mate then he or she will also be into you. So if you both pay genuine attention to each other then something will develop. You should not try to play games or try any particular seduction techniques or to achieve milestones by a particular time. You should keep in mind that a successful long-term relationship is not a game.
Each relationship is unique just as each person is unique so the unfold of your relationship will be unique too. You cannot plan for it to go in a particular way. You need to engage with the process of it and with each other then make decisions as you go.
At last, all you can do is to live your life more fully, learn to accept and love yourself more fully. In this way only you will love and be loved more fully.